The Importance Of Personal Value Based Goal Setting
December 9, 2009 by Terry
Filed under Goal Setting, Happiness
I came across an excellent article about setting goals according to your values. Completely inline with my philosophy and www.mylifechanges.com Thank you
A Values-Based Approach to Goals
5 Truths About Happiness And Love
September 6, 2009 by Terry
Filed under Goal Setting, Happiness, Mind
I am, if anything, a seeker of truth. I continuously read, discuss, ponder and write about my journey towards truth.
What is happiness?
I think that happiness can be a rather foggy term. So I will more or less agree with the author and scientist Barbara Fredrickson and say that happiness includes these 10 traits - joy, gratitude (including reciprocity), serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement (humour), inspiration, awe (”goodness on a grand scale”), and love.
How do I become happy?
I will also agree that the happiest people experience a happiness ratio of 3-1 (Three happy thoughts to one negative). The people that are flourishing in happiness have a ratio of 5-1. I know people I work with that have 3 negative thoughts to 1 happy one. I walk in the other direction when they start complaining, whining or making sad excuses. Think about your own ratio. Any thoughts on this?
When are my happiest moments?
I’ve read a few times that having drinks and dinner with good friends can be a peak happy experience. I had a rocking dinner party with close friends last week and we had brilliant conversations, laughed to the point of crying and made damn sure we would get together again. It was a remarkable night filled with many moments of happiness traits including joy, interest, amusement and inspiration.
How do I fall in Love?
I will agree with Barbara that Love usually happens when we associate a group of happiness traits together. When one person can inspire joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration and awe in us, how can we not fall in love?
Commit to following your dream
You will be happiest pursuing goals and dreams that are intrinsic, meaningful to you and freely chosen. Intrinsic goals are pursued because they provide significance and purpose to you. They help you grow and mature. Writing this blog (and providing you a life changing tool) is a way for me to grow and find deep personal meaning and purpose. Intrinsic goals will make us happier in the long run. Writing this blog also provides me with joy, inspiration, pride, hope, amusement and even awe on occasion. Ya even awe!
What inspires you? What gives you joy? What gives you awe?
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The Myth Of Finding The Perfectly Balanced Life
There is no such thing as a balanced life. You can’t just dump your life in a pie chart and always have perfectly balanced segments. What you can do is pay full attention to the aspects that are important to you. Little Jimmy having a soccer practice? Make sure you are there for him with unconditional love and support. Love to go sailing? Don’t think about those investment deals while enjoying the perfect sunset.
Let’s face it, the higher you climb the corporate ladder, the bigger the paycheck, and the more office time it requires. If you play it right perhaps you can telecommute from home and cut down on traffic jams. Quality of life means making certain sacrifices or trade offs. Quality of life means finding out what means most to you, not living according to a pie chart. The very best thing you can do is make sure that each area of your work and home lives are given their full love and attention. That includes family meals, outings, reading a book or just lazing in the sun.
Your loved ones and you will appreciate life 100% more if you show them an hour of quality time instead of two hours of Blackberry time.
So look at the different roles you play in life and decide how much time you want to live in these roles. It won’t ever be balanced, but each role can have its own joy. Now as your roles blend together your life as a whole becomes more joyful.
It’s a constant adjustment, but well worthwhile.
What roles and areas of your life are you fully appreciating and finding joy in now?
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What Is The Meaning Of Life?
July 26, 2009 by Terry
Filed under Happiness, Mind, Zen Forever
I’ve placed heaps of stress on myself lately. The burning question is why? To what end is all this leading to? I have quantified most of my efforts with a quest for personal financial freedom, but what happens after that?
Then along comes a book called, Three Cups Of Tea.
This is one of the most inspirational books I’ve read. What Greg Mortenson has done to set up 61 schools in Afghanistan and Pakistan and bring radically different cultures together is more than what most governments have ever done.
This book also reinforces my philosophies that:
1. What is the meaning of life? We are all here to give something back.
2. It isn’t a God that makes this world a better place, it is people.
3. Education is the root of erasing ignorance. Once ignorance is erased whole new worlds and possibilities open up to the mind.
4. People living with just the basics can be happier than the richest people in the world.
5. Living in harmony with nature is a key to saving the earth and all its inhabitants.
There is no point to my own self induced stress. It is completely meaningless. It doesn’t mean that I should become a monk and live in a cave. It only means that having satisfied my basic human needs my greatest satisfactions will come from building meaningful relationships with family, friends and of course nature.
Once I have reached financial freedom I will give something back.
But interestingly enough perhaps I already have financial freedom. It’s all in my mind.
So now I will choose how I will give something back. Because that in a nutshell - is the meaning of life.
What do you think the meaning of life is?
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I Am Going To Show You True Wealth, Meaning And Happiness
I’ve decided to stop being so damn polite to you in my article/blog writing.
I think most people haven’t a clue on how to make deep, meaningful life changes. In this article I will give you a brief summary on how to find true peace, meaning and wealth. And yes, its fine for you to want more money, it makes life much easier.
Finding Wealth and Peace of Mind
Yesterday I went shopping for polo shirts downtown, lunched at a great French restaurant (found it on my Iphone app) and spent the rest of the stunning day lounging by the pool. I also enjoyed every moment by staying in the present and not worrying about the future, or allowing any negative thoughts to attach to my mind. Staying in the now (the present moment) is the most important habit you can start building. Embracing the now will help you move away from fears, doubts and past conditioning. When I focused on a salary increase some years ago I stayed in the moment (while talking to my new boss), let go of my fears and eventually ended up with a 24 % increase. A few years later, I let go of any doubts and fears and launched this website. Now my passion for sharing the most important self development thoughts is realized and I make money doing it! You too can get rid of your fears and doubts. Starting right now! Why would you not want to?
Letting your mind wander keeps you away from life’s beautiful moments.
Decide on a few key goals in your life and then start getting rid of all those unnecessary thoughts in your head. You are human right? You CAN think what and how you want right? You have the ability to find your authentic and pure self! You can stay in the moment and enjoy your walk, kids, spouse, friends and work. You see the problem is that we keep thinking about the future, past, buying stuff, television, money worries, you get the picture. And every damn time we are not in the moment we lose that moment forever. I know people that can be out in the forest walking and all they think about is paying bills. And they don’t remember the forest two minutes after getting home. Are you one of those people? If you are you can start changing today. Break out of those bad habits.
Tiger Woods stays in the moment.
Tiger wins golf tournaments in front of millions of people because he remains in the moment. The moment he does not give full attention to the present moment he goofs up. While in the moment he feels the grass, his clubs, the wind and focuses on the shot. He is 100% present. This is the main reason why he is wealthy. Can you imagine if he thinks of his bills or that his best friend has a bigger house? Well this is how most of you think. You think about everything but experiencing the present moment and your unique, pure self. That can be changed starting right now.
I think it is time to wake up and really experience life and all that it has to offer. Decide on a few key goals. Stay with them. Stay in the moment and enjoy life to the fullest. Every moment is precious. You will find a deep understanding about how wonderful life can truly be.
It’s your choice. Just do it.
I’m extremely happy today about launching this redesigned website, version 2.0. I hope you like it.
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Lead A More Meaningful, Peaceful And Happy Life
July 15, 2008 by Terry
Filed under Happiness, Mind, Popular Posts, Zen Forever
Even a relatively minor action, if undertaken with a conscious awareness of how imprints make us see an otherwise “neutral” or “empty” world as we do, will lead to tremendous results.
Why do you make knee jerk decisions? Why do you make bad choices? Why don’t you take the time to reflect on your life and start making some different choices? New goals? And ultimately, how do you control your mind so that you feel more objectivity, happiness and peace?
Why Goal Setting Is Extremely Important To You
July 15, 2008 by Terry
Filed under Featured Articles, Goal Setting, Happiness, Mind
Do you want to be happy and successful in the future? Then set goals. People live successful, happy and living meaningful lives because they have taken the time to set goals. Below are 11 compelling reasons why goal setting is extremely important to you.
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Goal Setting And Value Identification Lead To More Meaning and Purpose
July 15, 2008 by Terry
Filed under Featured Articles, Goal Setting, Mind, Popular PostsLife seems to hurtle by us these days. To keep up with our frantic-paced life, our ever-changing technological society has given us radical tools to work, plan and supposedly become more efficient.
Computers, cell phones, Palm Pilots and pagers are just a few examples of gadgets that keep us connected, sometimes 24/7. Information whizzes by us at a mind-numbing rate from Internet news sites, work computer systems, E-mail at work, E-mail at home, not to mention pagers, to do lists and pop up reminders. All in the name of efficiency. Work demands that we do more in less time and the global village keeps us all connected with instant news. More and more of us are reeling from information overload, feeling exhausted and possibly headed for burn out.
