3 Reasons Why I Didn’t Sell My Website

I had an offer to sell my website but decided it was in my best interests not to.

I built this website to provide you with a tool and blog to help you make life changes. The first step to help you make a life change is for you to think about your life as a whole - “Who Am I“, and then link this to your core personal values and finally your goals or habits. By using this method you break your life down from the big picture to small bite sized chunks. If I can help you make one life change, or at least begin to think about making changes then I know my job is done. The blog is from my life experiences and the hundreds of books I have loved and read.

The blog allows me to express myself, search for meaning and purpose AND become a better writer. I love to write. Writing clears my head, provides a forum for my ideas, puts things in perceptive and expands my creativity.  Lately I have been trying to express myself through stories. Stories give me more meaning and I have to live my stories to make them real. The more stories I live, the more memorable a life I have experienced, written and shared.  This goes in parallel with one of the best tips I learnt about writing nonfiction. Express how something “feels”.  Without feelings, nonfiction writing can be robotic and bland.  People relate best to feelings and emotions. And perhaps most of all, writing has helped me open my heart to the world.

The blog helps me overcome my fears. Writing for an audience always brings up a certain fear factor.  You are afraid that you might not have something interesting to say.  You are afraid your writing style is boring. You are afraid your dream of becoming a writer will fail. But as I have gotten over those fears I have overcome times of horrible resistance.  I am a writer. I’m not afraid to call myself that now.

I also believe fear is the cause of many if not all problems. It is the root of negative assumptions and the destructive emotions of anger, jealousy and possessiveness. This is why I’m learning to open my heart and let negative energy flow through without becoming attached to it.

These are three reasons why I did not sell. This website has become part of who I am. At times writing was like swimming through molasses, other times like floating on a cloud. How can I sell that?

Are you living in fear? Have you explored your passion?

Do You Know Your Deeply Held Values?

One of the best tools in My Life Changes is the ability to define your core personal values. Across the world, people share universal values such as honesty, compassion, loyalty, love, passion, courage and peace. Your personal values reveal what matters most to you in life. They are qualities that you admire in others and hope you live life by. As you define your core personal values you find personal motivation in them. Your values are a foundation to your life’s meaning and purpose.

Most value driven companies are the most successful in the world. Apple values innovation above almost all else, and this has led them to be the number one IT company in the world. So why aren’t you defining your own values? With clear values we make choices that lead us to behave from personal integrity and strength rather than blind emotion or societies shallow influences. If you truly seek meaning and purpose in life begin to define your personal values. My Life Changes provides the best tool on the web for this.

Please take some time to read this post by Donald Miller a terrific author who talks about defining values.

How to Discover Your Core Values and Why it Matters

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5 Of The Best Self Development Books

• The Unthethered Soul – the journey beyond yourself.

I discovered this book while reading an article on what some of the worlds Billionaires were reading. This is the best book I’ve read on living in the moment, letting go of useless chatter, opening your heart and channeling positive energy.

• The Millionaire Next Door

One of my favourite best books how to become wealthy. This book is based on facts not fiction. Read more about it here.

• The Pursuit Of Happiness

This is one of my all time favorite books on the subject of Happiness. Another great book backed by facts and excellent research. I wrote a review about it at Amazon.

• The Evolving Self

This book made me begin to think I could help change the world. It was a major influence on my life and how I viewed the world. This book is real eye opener.

• The Mandela Of Being

Another fabulous book on living in the present moment. Once we understand the power of our consciousness the sky is the limit. We discover a peace and joy and let go of living with “me“, “you“, “future“ and the “past“ Also discover gratitude, stillness and presence.

Do you have any favorites?

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Quite Simply, The 5 Best Self Development Blogs

Sid Savara – Achieve Your Goals More Effectively With Analysis Driven Personal Development

Sid backs up a lot of his posts with facts, which is why I like his blog so much.

Get Rich Slowly – Personal Finance That Makes Cents

J.D Roth shares some excellent personal success stories and gives the best advice out there on how to get rich.

Erica.biz – Teaching You How To Build An Inspired, Successful Business

Erica claims she sold her online business for over a million dollars at age 26. She provides excellent advice to anyone starting up a business.

The Blog Of Tim Ferriss – Experiments In Lifestyle Design

Tim has a bestselling book out on how to work 4 hours a week and gives all kinds of great advice on how to be successful with almost anything!

My Life Changes

A blog with solid articles on how to make life changes and also provides terrific tools to begin making life changes right now. Align your goals, personal values and mission statement all in one tracker and see your success grow in leaps and bounds.

Do you have any to add?

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An Amazing Yet Simple Life Changing Lesson

I’ve taken a bit of a break from writing (for health reasons) but am back in the saddle (but writing from bed, so no real saddle), and would love to share a major life changing method. This method will now be the cornerstone for me (hopefully for you) and a perfect addition to the website tools. Ready?

Use a 6 x 4 Note card to break or create a new habit or goal

Once you have defined your goals using the tracker, choose one goal and write it down on an index card.

Writing your goal down on an index card and carrying it with you at all times creates a solid awareness of the change you want to make. This awareness of your goal will be strongly reinforced if you pull out the card many times during the day. Make yourself pay attention to your goal. It will remind you of how important the goal is to you. The statement on the card may be as simple as these examples.

• Get more exercise and be physically fit.
• Stop smoking, feel better and save money
• Be more loving

Getting more exercise doesn’t just mean just joining a gym. It means taking a walk. Taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Walking the dog. Riding the bike. The note card should be pulled out whenever you have the urge to fall back into a bad habit or routine.

Being more loving can apply to family members or the cashier at grocery store. Pull that note out and you are suddenly aware that you can be a more loving person. Who knows, it may even help you find love!

Once the behavior is now a habit, you just throw the note card away (or keep it for sentimental reasons).

So you don’t need an iPhone to make a major change. All you need is to take your time defining your goals and then a simple index card to create a steady awareness of that goal or habit.

I can’t think of a better method and it works great for me!

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The Importance Of Personal Value Based Goal Setting

I came across an excellent article about setting goals according to your values. Completely inline with my philosophy and www.mylifechanges.com Thank you Stephen!

A Values-Based Approach to Goals

People! - Make One Freaking Life Change At A Time Please

Stop trying to change everything!

The problem is that most people get freaked out about ALL the life changes they wish to make AT ONE TIME. Lose weight, save money, find love, find balance, less stress and of course all the issue surroundings the environment.

Change one thing and make it stick!

I cut out bread at lunch. We have a fabulous deal at lunch and the bread is included. I decided to not have the empty calories of bread on my plate. Hey, I’m in good shape, quite healthy, but I have made a conscience decision to not include bread in my lunch. I eat enough carbohydrates at lunch, bread is unnecessary. Wow, what an exciting blog post – how I cut out freaking bread!

What is the point?

Most successful life changes are done one baby step at a time. When we try too much we can easily get overwhelmed, frustrated or discouraged. Decide what is most important to you and attack that with a passion. Take action! Love yourself! I know you can do it. You CAN make a serious life change. You ARE in the driver’s seat! Life IS too short. Let’s get going right now! Decide what change you can make right now. For me it’s less bread, less empty calories and a healthy weight loss. I’m happy with that.

You CAN do it! Let’s start…right now.

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Get Rid Of Passive Barriers To Live Your Dream Life

I opened up my credit card bill recently and grimly realized that a payment to a caterer was on it. My original intention was to pay this portion cash a few months ago. But passive barriers crept into my mind and hijacked my common sense and discipline. What are passive barriers? They are those self destructive thoughts that make us delay both minor and important decisions. I’ll get to it later. It won’t make a big difference in my life. I’m too tired to do this. It’s too complicated. I’ll get rejected. The sad part is that some people let passive barrier thinking affect their whole life.

What are some important decisions that people put off? I should get a health check up. I really should invest in the company savings plan. I will pay off my credit cards this year. I’ll phone that family member tomorrow. I’ll lose ten pounds by the end of next month.

So why do we put these things off? In most cases we try to change too many bad habits at once, which will usually lead to nothing changed. It’s much easier to focus on one area of our life instead of five. This way we create a constant awareness of a life change instead of just giving it a second thought. The other is the classic instant gratification feeling as opposed to a long term investment. We may have fun spending on our credit cards or eating those French fries right now. But in the future we may find ourselves with no savings and horribly overweight with a heart condition.

The choice is yours. Be honest with your passive barriers and address them one by one towards a future of contentment and joy. Or have fun now and pay dearly later. I have to go pay my credit card bill now. Sheesh.

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How To Quit A Habit Using An Index Card

I quit smoking by writing all the negative things that smoking brought to my life on a 5 x 3 index card. I then carried that card with me for many months. I took it out many times to remind me of all the terrible things that smoking brought to me and the people that I love. It was not a negative card towards me, it just simply stated the facts of how smoking was affecting my life.

I remember being in the washroom at work once and pulling out the card to again remind myself of why I had stopped smoking. Some days I pulled that card out 20 times. The interesting thing about carrying a card is that it made me pay attention to what was important to me. Whenever I felt tempted to smoke I felt the card in my pocket and was reminded of its presence.

A 5 x 3 index card can help us make many important decisions when making life changes. When I found myself having a beer and craving a cigarette, without the card I could have easily succumbed to smoking again. With the card I made a conscious decision to distract myself with a stir stick, chewing gum, or even munching on a toothpick. Again, the card made me pay attention. So whether you want to lose weight, save  money, make new friends or even find love, write it down on a card and look at that card frequently throughout the day. It will make you pay attention. Don’t beat yourself up on that card. Focus on one aspect of your life at a time. This technique has helped many people, I hope it is a life changer for you.

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The New Achievement Rule: Feel The Sensation Of Success

The second biggest value people are seeking on www.mylifechanges.com is achievement. Achievement, success, accomplishment, whatever you want to call it will never be reached without following this golden rule.

First feel the sensation of achievement

First you have to feel the sensation of achievement in whatever area of your life you are trying to change. It may be wealth, relationships, health or just serenity but the key is to visualize yourself as already achieving your goal. Feel the sensation of reaching your goal. Visualize it, taste it, feel it. How does it make you feel? This is the all important question. Does it make you feel proud? Does visualizing your accomplishment make you feel like you are being of service? Does it give you a warm and fuzzy feeling? Meaning and purpose?

The problem is that most people picture their success as a BMW or a large house. But these are just fleeting feelings of material accomplishment. They never last. What really last are feelings of happiness, peace, bliss  and fulfillment first felt in your heart and then in your mind. Remember when you went away on vacation? Perhaps you stayed near the beach and saw dolphins swim by each morning. Memories that bring that kind of pure joy to your heart , are what stick in your heart and mind. There was that everlasting sense of wonder from something bigger than you. It will last a lifetime. Now think back to all the toys you have had. Do they bring back a sense of wonder and joy? No. It is your feelings and sensations from something other than your stuff that will bring you a long lasting joy. Joy from material objects never last.

Now picture yourself having achieved your goal. How does it make you feel?

Now that you have captured that feeling, it is time to take action. Go and start working on your goal. And always keep that sensation of achievement inside of you. You’re ultimate goal is to capture that wonderful feeling you are after. That feeling is what your success should be. That feeling opens up your heart.

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